Dear Future Husband,
I’ve only had 3 boyfriends and I don’t want another. When I broke up with my last boyfriend, I wasn’t sure about when/if I’d date again, but as I prayed and thought on the situation, I realized that I want to use my time of singleness completely for the Lord. It’s such a special time if you think about it – no husband, no kids, nothing to tie you down. I could go back to Africa for years if I wanted; I can follow wherever God leads me. As soon as you add a boyfriend in the mix, decisions become more difficult.
Also, I want to wait specifically for you. The more relationships you go through, the more pieces of your heart you give away…even if you don’t intend to have a very serious relationship, 1) What’s the point of that? Aren’t relationships intended to help you find your marriage partner? 2) You get attached anyways. You’ll always have memories, whether good or bad, of time spent with someone other than your spouse.
I trust God to bring us together in His perfect timing, and I don’t have to date around for that to happen. Whether you’re actively waiting for me or if you’re waiting without having realized it yet, I am praying for God to give both of us patience as we wait. Because it’s hard, I know. Almost all of my close friends are married and probably yours are married or dating, and I know that can discourage sometimes…Thankfully, I’ve never been a boy-crazy girl. God is more important to me than a relationship and accomplishing my dreams is more exciting to me than “tall, dark, and handsome.” I am hoping that God will put that same passion for following Him and reaching your goals into your heart so that you are not overwhelmed with longing.
To help me keep my eye on the prize (You! In this case), I am going to make one list of absolute requirements for a husband and another list of desirable qualities. Then whenever a boy comes knocking on the door of my heart, if he doesn’t measure up to my list, I’ll know to not even entertain the idea of him being “the one.” I’m really excited about it! I’ll be able to focus on what I really want in a helpmate rather than how sparkly his eyes are and all that other stuff that confuses and distracts girls.
And because I am focusing on our future and how we can work together for the Lord, we’ll end up being able to serve God in really amazing ways. I imagine us traveling the world together, speaking and ministering (maybe even performing!), and it makes me unbelievably happy. I am looking forward to serving my heavenly Best Friend with you, my earthly best friend.
Linking up with Ashley at The Sweet Season here