Dear Future Husband,
I’ve only had 3 boyfriends and I don’t want another. When I broke up with my last boyfriend, I wasn’t sure about when/if I’d date again, but as I prayed and thought on the situation, I realized that I want to use my time of singleness completely for the Lord. It’s such a special time if you think about it – no husband, no kids, nothing to tie you down. I could go back to Africa for years if I wanted; I can follow wherever God leads me. As soon as you add a boyfriend in the mix, decisions become more difficult.
Also, I want to wait specifically for you. The more relationships you go through, the more pieces of your heart you give away…even if you don’t intend to have a very serious relationship, 1) What’s the point of that? Aren’t relationships intended to help you find your marriage partner? 2) You get attached anyways. You’ll always have memories, whether good or bad, of time spent with someone other than your spouse.
I trust God to bring us together in His perfect timing, and I don’t have to date around for that to happen. Whether you’re actively waiting for me or if you’re waiting without having realized it yet, I am praying for God to give both of us patience as we wait. Because it’s hard, I know. Almost all of my close friends are married and probably yours are married or dating, and I know that can discourage sometimes…Thankfully, I’ve never been a boy-crazy girl. God is more important to me than a relationship and accomplishing my dreams is more exciting to me than “tall, dark, and handsome.” I am hoping that God will put that same passion for following Him and reaching your goals into your heart so that you are not overwhelmed with longing.
To help me keep my eye on the prize (You! In this case), I am going to make one list of absolute requirements for a husband and another list of desirable qualities. Then whenever a boy comes knocking on the door of my heart, if he doesn’t measure up to my list, I’ll know to not even entertain the idea of him being “the one.” I’m really excited about it! I’ll be able to focus on what I really want in a helpmate rather than how sparkly his eyes are and all that other stuff that confuses and distracts girls.
And because I am focusing on our future and how we can work together for the Lord, we’ll end up being able to serve God in really amazing ways. I imagine us traveling the world together, speaking and ministering (maybe even performing!), and it makes me unbelievably happy. I am looking forward to serving my heavenly Best Friend with you, my earthly best friend.
Love
Tiffany Dawn
Linking up with Ashley at The Sweet Season here
February 1, 2013 at 5:20 PM -
Your letters are so sweet! I have one of those lists as well and I waiting for god to bring me the man he has planned for me.
February 1, 2013 at 7:50 PM -
Aww, thanks, Jess! God’s got a plan for both of us
We’ll have to compare lists the next time I visit; maybe we’ve each thought of things that the other hasn’t.
February 1, 2013 at 4:07 PM -
Stopping by from Friday’s Letters.
I’m still single and looking forward to my future husband and like to write him little snippets about myself or what I hope for him to be like.
I don’t mind being single, especially when I see people complain about being miserable in a relationship.
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February 1, 2013 at 7:51 PM -
Thanks for stopping by! I think it’s great that you’re keeping notes for your future man – he’s going to love them!
February 1, 2013 at 10:10 AM -
I understand the single life, as I’m 37 and single. I love it when people assume something is wrong with you because you haven’t been married and divorce at this point! Ack! I’d rather be single and avoid that drama.
So yes, I’m waiting, and having faith that God will place someone in my life when it’s the right time. So I enjoy everyone else’s babies, spoil and snuggle them.
I enjoyed reading this – found you via Friday’s Letters!
February 1, 2013 at 10:18 AM -
Ha ha! For me, people usually assume that I am a lot younger than I am so I haven’t gotten those assumptions yet. I agree – it is better to be happily single than miserably married. Glad you enjoyed the read and I wish you all the best as you wait for your future hubby
Also, I’ll be checking out your blog later today…looking forward to it!